4 Ways to Ease Homesickness as a Grown Up
I remember the first time I felt homesick. I was between the ages of 5-7 and I was at camp. I dreamt that my dad was there with me and he went to give me a hug and IN MY SLEEP, I sat up and "hugged my dad" aka the air, and fell right out of my top bunk onto the cold floor in the middle of the night.
When I first moved to Texas, I dealt with being homesick constantly and it's still something I deal with often. I feel like it's hard to put into words how it feels for people who have never really experienced it. Sometimes you can feel like you're "failing" and what I mean by that is that you're supposed to be sassy and independent and go-getting all the time and channeling Beyonce but the reality is that once you move away, it can be very overwhelming and lonely. It feels really heartbreaking sometimes. There is so much I've missed out on because I live so far away. It sucks because sometimes I want to just walk outside and go have dinner with my family or something but I can't. I feel like you just don't realize how much those things mean to you until you don't have them around as often as you used to.
But it does get easier. It gets easier in the sense that you kind of learn how to deal with it better, but being away from everything you grew up with and people you love never gets easier- you just learn how to cope better if that makes sense, and so I wanted to share a few things that help me when I'm feeling this way.
1. Find things you love about where you live now (even if it's just one)
This for me is the music scene. There's a lot of local bands in the area and there's always shows going on over the weekends. Also a lot of artists/bands tour close to me often, so it's so much easier to see a show than it was before.
2. Keep yourself distracted by being productive
This is something I wish I would've done when I first moved here because I'm pretty sure I wasted months of my life doing nothing because I was homesick and didn't have a job yet. Personally, if give myself too much leisure time I usually end up overthinking things or feeling so gross for wasting time when I could've done something that would benefit me #issues.
Some of my favorite things to do are working on music or writing a blog post. I also find cleaning to be very therapeutic so I like doing that (nerd). The possibilities are endless- try exercising, learning a skill, doing a face mask, reading, or painting.
3. Stay in touch
Easier said than done, but necessary. Technology is amazing these days and makes it so easy to keep in touch. I try to call my parents atleast once a week, and me and my sisters snapchat a lot. Me and best friends from back home all have totally different schedules. All of us are living in a different state from each other so it can be hard to find time to talk but it's worth it. I can be in a really bad mood or feeling down and after I talk to either my family of friends from back home, I feel 100% better.
4. Make your new home feel like home
This is so important for obvious reasons. When you're living in a new place and deal with anxiety, the most comforting thing is to come home and feel familiar and safe there. Print pictures, bring things from you old home to your new home and you'll notice a massive difference compared to a place that has no familiarity.
For any of you dealing with homesickness, know that it is normal and you're not an immature baby who's not ready for the new world because you miss your friends and family and old surroundings. It's okay to feel sad sometimes but remember that you are not your thoughts and feelings- that because you feel sad that you are a sad person (does that make sense?). Accept that you are feeling down for little while and get on with it.
I hope this post was helpful in some way to some one! I hope you have had a great weekend!
Leave some of your tips for when you feel homesick below!